Best Diets That Work

I was reading a comment on a blog that I follow where the person stated, “I haven’t found a diet that works for me.” And I realized that many people feel the same. People are looking for the best diets that work. Guest what? Even though there are many diets out there, you will not find one that works in the long term.

Let’s face it. As a nation, we are obese! And we are all looking for that easy way out. We are looking for a diet pill or shake. Really we are looking for a magic potion to make us thin again.

Stop looking for a diet! Diets don't work!
Stop looking for a diet! Diets don’t work!

In the article below I will explain to you why you have been struggling to lose weight and why being healthy goes hand in hand with weight loss.

It is more of a mindset than anything else. If you can fix your relationship with food, you can lose the weight.

Changing your relationship with food is simply when we eat food to nourish our body, rather than making us feel better. Often without even realizing it, we eat simply because we can.

For example, one day when I was first trying to lose weight, I noticed that I was eating some potato chips. I wasn’t even aware what I was doing. I had just about eaten half a bag. But the scary part was that I wasn’t even hungry. I was eating these chips simply because they were there.

This mindless eating is what got me fat. It made me realize that I was out of control and needed to make a change. But change didn’t come easily because I couldn’t simply quit. And this lack of control with food made feel feel like a total loser.

You see certain foods like highly processed foods and carbs are extremely addictive. It is difficult to simply quit eating them.

When many people feel out of control with their weight and diet, they want to do a “diet” and diets are restrictive. They make you feel like you have to be perfect. And the truth is that no one is perfect. Yet, when we do diets and they don’t work, we feel like big fat failures.

This is why diets don’t work.

But the good news is you can get healthy and feel in control as you lose weight by changing your relationship with food.

How do I change my relationship with food?

Educate yourself by learning the science of how your body uses nutrition to thrive. When you do this, you will quickly realize that most of the foods in stores are not even “real food”. And this crap that we eat is what is making us fat.

It is important to realize that carbs and sugar which comes from processed foods are what is making us fat and not well.

Once you realize that the food you eat is making you sick, you can start to eat healthier foods.

If you are struggling with your weight, please know it isn’t your fought and you are not alone. There is lots of support out there for those who are looking to finally find a solution.

In order to lose weight, you need to be ready to make a lifestyle change. A health coach can help you know where to start.

As a health coach, I am currently taking on new clients. My rates are very reasonable and I offer one on one counseling over the phone or Skype.

If you want to learn more about working with me, you can contact me a wendy@fatlossatfifty.com to set up a free consultation.

I will share with you how I lost 60 pounds and have help many others do the same. It is not about finding diets that work. It is about finding a healthy lifestyle and loving yourself!

You got this!

~Wendy

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Does Keto Work For Women Over Fifty?

Yesterday, on one of my women’s groups there was a discussion about Keto and how all the young kids are doing it. And someone asked, “Does keto work for women over 50?”

So of course, I shared my story with her and hopefully reassured her that she can absolutely lose weight and get healthy. We are never too old or too young to turn or weight around.

It feels good knowing that I am helping others.

You see, over the years, I tried everything to lose weight. And I lost a lot of temporary weight. Meaning, I yo-yo’ed. I would lose the weight, only to gain it right back. Some times it took longer than others, but ultimately I would gain it back.

And now, as a weight loss counselor, I know that not only did I have it all wrong, I also was doing damage to my body. Yo Yo dieting is not good for your heart. It isn’t good at all.

Since trying everything. I noticed when I turned 50, that I started to see a lot online about keto. So I decided to try it out. I stopped eating all processed foods. And I cut out all of my grains and other starches like root veggies. I even eliminated all fruits from my diet. I learned about 10 foods to avoid when trying to lose weight and get healthy. I eliminated sugar, bad oils and fats, processed foods and starches.

I also started adding lots of healthy foods to my diet that included meats, fish, eggs, natural fats like lard and butter, cheese and veggies that grow above the ground.

Over a 9-month period I lost over 60 pounds. My husband, Brian (boyfriend at the time) did the same and he also improved his health. He was on lots of medications for various health issues. Now he is medication free which saves lots of money. He feels like he got his life back. But I’m the lucky one because I get to have him in my life longer.

So the weight loss was very life changing for us.

Following an extremely low carb diet worked for me to finally lose the weight and keep it off long term.

The reason Keto was different for me, was because I felt like I was control. All the cravings for sweets went away and I don’t crave sweets anymore. This made it really different than some of the fad diets I tried in the past where I felt deprived. I felt like I got my life back.

If you are over 50 and wondering Does keto work for women over 50, let me assure you that it does. But you have to take the first step to get started. You have to get to that place where you are ready to make a change and you just got to make the commitment to do it. You can do it!


If you need some help getting started or some accountability, don’t be afraid to seek help.  I am taking on new clients and would love to answer any questions you may have about health and nutrition. You can set up a free consultation here to learn more about what I do and how I can help you lose the weight and keep it off long term.

Help My Husband Lose Weight

This morning I had someone contact me through Facebook wanting to set up a free consultation and hire me as a health coach. She said, “I need to help my husband lose weight.” She was very worried about him because he is a type 2 diabetic and clinically obese. He is only 38 years old. She is worried that he will be cutting his life short.

She explained that they discussed him losing weight and she put him on a low carb diet. By doing all the shopping and controlling the meals, she is trying to limit his carbs. He agreed to follow her “diet” but, she found out that he has been “cheating” and snacking at work and late at night. This frustrates her because she works so hard and takes time to plan out their meals. He doesn’t seem to care as much as she does. His constant binge eating is cause arguments between the two of them. She has had enough!

I explained to her that the consultation is all about determining if the person is ready to make a lifestyle change. If they are not, then I will not work with them as it would be a waste of time for both them and me. I suggested that she stop trying to control him, but for her to focus on herself. She can talk to him about her concerns, but unless he is ready to put his health first, she can’t help him.

Helping a spouse lose weight doesn’t work unless they are asking for the help. It is just like living with someone who has any other addiction. Unless they want help, you have to respect the fact that they are a grown adult and in charge of their own bodies.

It is frustrating when we love someone who is struggling with an addiction to food. It is especially worrisome when we see them suffering with numerous health issues and on lots of medications. We want to force them to do a “diet” or join a gym because we love them and want them to live a long life. But this will only cause arguments and stress in the household.

And you would think that if they really loved you they would stop eating the crap foods. But you got to understand that the SAD (standard American diet) is very addictive. It is very difficult to break the addiction to sugar which is in pretty much everything. But also, it is a total lifestyle change. This is why once someone decides to get healthy a health coach can be helpful. A coach can help people with their relationship with food and help them gain control so it is easier to make the switch to a healthy lifestyle.

The thing is, weight loss isn’t simple. And it isn’t just about eating differently. It is about fixing or reprogramming what is going on in the persons head. There is so much to change that it takes time. And often it takes a person years to own up to the fact that they have a problem. But they have to be ready.


In the mean time, you (the spouse) can control yourself and set a good example for your kids. For example, you can continue to buy healthy low carb foods only and cook low carb meals. You can focus on loving yourself. Let him do his own thing. But let him know you love him unconditionally.

What you don’t want to do is be an enabler. If he wants unhealthy food, then he will have to go buy it for himself. Be an supporter, not a nag. Let him know you love him and you will support him when he is ready.

You will get through this!

Can you relate to this? Do you struggle with food addiction? Where you in denial? Or perhaps you were on the other side wanting to help your spouse lose weight. Please share your story. Someone needs to hear your story.

I hope you found this post helpful. I wish you all the best!

Steps To Overcome Emotional Eating

The first step to overcome emotional eating is to acknowledge that you have a problem with food.

For me, I knew I had a problem with food, but when it came to changing my behavior, I focused on diet and what I was eating. But the process of losing weight and getting healthy, forced me to really look at my relationship with food and I realized I had a problem.

There are different types of emotional eating and everyone does it. For example: When someone dies and we visit the loved ones, we often feel the need to bring some sort of meal or food as we pay our respects. For some reason we think giving them food will make them feel better.

You see we use food to make us feel better when we are sad. We use food to celebrate things as well. That’s why you can always find cake and alcohol at weddings. And this is something that everyone does. We all use food emotionally.

This is how we have been programmed since we were kids. I remember being a small child and realizing that when I got a boo boo, my Mommy would give me a cookie so I would stop crying. So I learned that food fixed the boo boo. Later as an adult, I found that I reached for food when I felt adult emotions.

But for some us, it isn’t just about using food to feel better, Some of us are emotional eaters and often feel out of control.

How do you know if you are an emotional eater? Think about the last time you had something to eat that you later regretted eating. What emotional state were you in? Where you stressed, sad or depressed. Without realizing it. emotional eaters use food to feel better on the inside.

I remember when I was working as a retail manager, I worked very long shifts on my feet. I was often to busy to take a lunch break and my job in general was very stressful. Some days I was stressed out to the max. I remember the moment I had a problem with stress eating. It was when I was food shopping and I saw that Hershey Kisses were on sale. As I reached for them, the thought “I deserve this!” was in my head. I purchased them and later asked myself why. Because of course I don’t deserve to eat all this sugar if I’m trying to get healthy and lose weight.

I realized that I was looking to make myself feel better, just like my mom did when I had a boo boo as a child.

We are all different and we all use food in different ways to help us feel better.

But how do you overcome emotional eating while you are working on getting healthy and eating better?

The Second Step is to Love Yourself more than you Love Food!

This is when we really get honest with ourselves and realize what we are doing. Think about the action of eating food emotionally and looking to “feel better”. Do you actually feel better after you eat the bowl of ice cream or an entire pizza? Most often we feel awful and wish we didn’t have it at all. We wish we had more control over food.

This is when we need to accept that food isn’t going to make us feel better at all. Yes it may for a moment, but not for long. We can say no to crap food when we focus on loving our self enough that we want to be healthy and live longer and not be on medications.

When people are stressed or sad or lonely, they don’t reach for celery and carrots to eat. No, they more than likely reach for unhealthy foods packed with carbs and sugar.

For me, sugar was my drug. This is Soooo addictive. It just makes you crave more and more And then you feel like crap. This is very frustrating. But once you realize that these foods do you no good you can begin to get a little of control. You can love yourself more than you love the sugar.

The Third Step Eat a Low Carb Diet

When you eliminate sugar and carbs from your diet, the cravings will go away and you will feel much better. When there isn’t the spike in insulin, caused by high carb foods, you will feel like you are more in control and your cravings will go away. A Keto or low carb diet is perfect for emotional eaters!

The Fourth Step is to Avoid Triggers

Stress!

Avoiding stress can be difficult as it can come in many forms. It can be an unavoidable crisis or a daily stressful day. But stress can trigger eating to feel better.

If you are triggered by stress caused by work or a spouse or a sick relative, it will be difficult to avoid. But you can really take time to look at the situation and see if there is a way to eliminate some stress. For example, just taking time away from the situation can help. When I was stressed with my job, I decided that my health was more important that being stressed by things I couldn’t control. But I started to make changes with the things that I could control. I started to say NO to people! I started putting myself first. I no longer skipped my lunch like I did in the past and started spending my lunch break meditating and listening to music. It helped me to be more calm and make better choices. What can you do to make your life less stressful?

Social Pressure!

Every time you turn around there is another holiday and always unhealthy food. When out with family and friends you are encouraged to eat and drink all the bad stuff. You will need to figure out what works for you.

Habits/Boredom

Sometimes we eat just to eat or because it is what we have always done. When I was my heaviest, I would have a bowl of ice cream nightly while watching TV. I didn’t eat it because I was hungry. I ate it simply because it was a habit. And it was a difficult habit to break. But once I realized what I was doing, I was able to make a change. You can too. This is about figuring out what works for you. Now, instead of watching TV, I read in bed (where I don’t eat).

Hire a Health Coach who Specializes in helping with Emotional Eating

Let’s face it, losing weight and getting healthy isn’t easy. This is freaking hard. I know because I did it. But I was lucky enough to have a partner as Brian and I did it together. He had me and I had him. We all need that person to remind us we are loved and doing great. And we need that person to point out when we are using excuses or going back to the old way of thinking. I always felt lucky and blessed to not feel alone in my weight loss journey.

Helping others lose weight has become my passion over that last few years, because I don’t want anyone to ever feel alone or defeated in their journey to get healthy. This is why I have been working as a weight loss counselor for the last 2 years and now am privately offering private health coaching.

A health coach can help with educating you on how your body works so you can get healthy. They can help with a meal plan and offer support. But a counselor can provide one on one counseling which will help you with your relationship with food and emotional eating. He or she can help give you the tools and support you need to long term health and success.

If you have been struggling with emotional eating, you are not alone! I hope you found this post helpful. Please share your story below, I’d love to connect with you.

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How Can I Get Motivated to Lose Weight?

How to get motivated to lose weight

In America 33% of adults are overweight and many of them are over 50. We all know that being overweight isn’t good as it is a symptom of many health issues. Some of those health issues are type 2 diabetes, acid re flux, sleep apnea, joint pain, high blood pressure. And these are just a few.

The bottom line is when people lose weight, they tend to get healthy. As a weight loss counselor, I work with lots of overweight and obese people. I have seen people get amazing results just by losing 20 to 50 pounds. And it’s not just about eliminating medications and eliminating sickness and getting healthy, it’s about getting your life back!

When someone gets healthy, they feel amazing in their skin. It’s almost like being a new person. You have more energy. Your clothes fit better. You may even feel sexier!

So how can I get motivated to lose weight?

You need to make 3 lists:

“How important is my health?”
  1. List what it feels like to be in your skin now. For example:
  2. List what your future will look like in 20 years if you don’t change. (Be honest with yourself)
  3. List what your future would look like if you were healthy and lost the weight you needed to lose.

Your lists may look something like this….

It’s really about being completely honest with yourself. You need to really take your head out of the sand and realize what your future holds.

The good news is we can reverse some damage and get healthy at any age! When you realize that you must change then you are ready to get started.

The most important thing I want you to know, is that it really isn’t so much about losing weight. You see weight gain is a symptom of something else going on. So I like to help people focus on nutrition and healing the inside of their body. When we focus on nutrition and not the scale, the weight will naturally come off. And you will feel amazing. You will most likely have more energy, less joint pain, sleep better and more.

It’s also about your life with your family….

Take the time and really have a heart-to-heart with yourself. Understand that you must change! And change can be scary. I know because I have been there.

But if you have decided to make a change and take your health back, you should take action now. Find a program that works for you where you also have support all the way through maintenance.

I highly recommend working with a health coach!

A health coach can provide a healthy plan, walk you through that plan step by step, support you. When I coach people, I also provide counseling to help folks with their relationship with food. Often we eat emotionally and not because we are hungry. I can help you change how you look at food. You will never feel alone with your health struggles.

If you would like to work with me, please email me with your contact information. Also provide some background information and why you feel like you are ready to make yourself a priority in your life!

To Work With Wendy and set up a Free Consultation email me at wendy@fatlossatfifty.com or contact me through Facebook.

The bottom line is, motivation is within. You need to decide what your future holds. Only you can take action! I wish you all the best!

Please comment below: How do you get motivated to lose weight?