Excuses and Weight Loss

Asking for help takes courage!

This morning I was responding to a comment on my about page and was inspired to write this post about excuses and weightloss. Often we use excuses when not losing weight or simply to avoid doing the work to lose the weight.

The comment was “I will try it soon”.

This struck a cord with me because for years I procrastinated on losing weight. Actually even though I was in a size 16 I was in denial of my weight.

But there were times when I got tired of my muffin top and would do a fad diet. I’d lose a pound here and there but I never kept it off. There was always an excuse on why I couldn’t do it. Or I would look for a reason to push my health off for another day. And I used all the excuses. Thank goodness, I pulled my head out of the sand and decided to make some changes.

Now as a health coach and weight loss counselor I get to hear other peoples excuses! And believe me there is a lot. You see, making a change is scary and uncomfortable. If you have been wanting to lose weight, but keep putting it off you are not alone.

When you use excuses, it simply means you haven’t been in enough pain yet to take action. Perhaps your don’t have inflammation or your not on medications. Perhaps you love what you see in the mirror. In other words, Your not ready to take action. And that is okay.

But take a minute to read through some of these weight loss excuses. Have you used these excuses? Or  heard a loved one use them?

10 Biggest Weight loss Excuses Ever

“I’m too busy to eat healthy meals”. Let me just say, it doesn’t take any longer to make a healthy meal than it does to eat unhealthy. For example, it only takes a few minutes cut up a hard boiled egg and put it on a salad.

I can’t give up my comfort foods”. Just so you know, food is not love. And you can learn how to stop using food to make your feel better. Food is meant to nourish our bodies not support us emotionally.

If you use this excuse, you need to understand that this is a problem in your head, not your stomach. And yes, you can give up comfort foods that are unhealthy. Some comfort foods are good for you, but you can learn to eat them when you are actually hungry and not just when you want to feel better emotionally.

“My spouse doesn’t support me”. This is something that I hear a lot. And it is difficult when you have a partner who doesn’t think you need to lose weight or perhaps he/she is overweight as well. Or maybe they have their own fears. The thing to remember is that this is about you taking care of you. It’s about you loving yourself enough to make a change.

Sometimes the opposite is true for people. Sometimes a spouse may encourage or push you to lose weight because they are concerned about you. But unless you are ready to make a change, this nagging will not help. You need to be ready to make a change.  You can’t do it for anyone but yourself. I highly recommend spouses to read: Help My Husband Lose Weight.

“I’d have to cook differently for my family”. I’m sorry but this is the dumbest excuse ever. So you don’t want your kids and spouse to eat healthy foods? But believe it or not, there are people who think they would rather feed their spouse and children junk food because it is quick. Changing the way we shop and eat sets an example for our family. And it might prevent them from illnesses and health issues down the road.

“Healthy food is more expensive”. This is not true! I’ve been eating healthy for over 4 years and my food bill has gone down. Eating packaged junk food is expensive. When you eat food that isn’t processed it is actually less expensive in the long run. And eating healthy foods could save you money down the road in prescriptions because you wont need them.

“I have no time to plan my meals”. If your health is important, you will find a few extra minutes to pack a lunch or plan out dinner. You are worth it!

“My problem is hormonal”. I get this one as I gained a lot of weight when I was going through menopause. But I also lost 60 pounds when I was going through menopause. There are all sorts of hormonal issues that cause weight gain for people but you can still lose weight.

I’m on medications that make me fat. You can still lose weight even if you are on steroids, antibiotics or antidepressants that cause weight gain. I’ve seen people lose a lot of weight but it may just slow things down a bit. And I’ve also seen people find that often they are able to even eliminate some medications after they lose weight and under doctors care.

I’ll start next week. There is no time like the present. And you know, you will use the same excuse next week as well. Why not make yourself a priority and give yourself a gift of health right now.

You are worth it!

I don’t know where to start. This last excuse is very valid. This is where a health Tudor and coach can help!

As a health Tudor, I can put together a step by step program that is unique to you. We are all different in the foods that we like. You will be eating foods that you love and you will begin to feel better overall as your body gets the nutrition it needs to thrive.

When I work with clients I make sure I focus on the why. Meaning I help people understand how their body uses food for energy and why sometimes it stores it as fat. It helps people to understand why the foods they were eating helped to make them overweight in the first place.

I also educate people on how, by eating differently, their body can become a fat burning machine. Once we understand the mechanics of hour our bodies work everything begins to make sense. Once you learn this secret you will be able to keep the weight off for a lifetime.

Another important part of eliminating all of the excuses is changing your relationship with food. It is important to eat when your are actually hungry. Eating is about nourishing our bodies. Food tastes wonderful and gives great pleasure but eating isn’t about making us feel better emotionally.

Many over-eaters find that once they are able to reprogram their brain with the help of a weight loss counselor they can get control! You get to eat on your own terms without feeling deprived. Believe it or not, the cravings will go away. I have a t shirt that says “Food is not the boss of me”. But sadly for many years it was. Now, I am in control.

So hopefully you now get it that excuses and weightloss don’t go together. Excuses hold you back! It’s as simple as that.

You got this!

Contact Wendy for a free consultation today.

Does Keto Work For Women Over Fifty?

Yesterday, on one of my women’s groups there was a discussion about Keto and how all the young kids are doing it. And someone asked, “Does keto work for women over 50?”

So of course, I shared my story with her and hopefully reassured her that she can absolutely lose weight and get healthy. We are never too old or too young to turn or weight around.

It feels good knowing that I am helping others.

You see, over the years, I tried everything to lose weight. And I lost a lot of temporary weight. Meaning, I yo-yo’ed. I would lose the weight, only to gain it right back. Some times it took longer than others, but ultimately I would gain it back.

And now, as a weight loss counselor, I know that not only did I have it all wrong, I also was doing damage to my body. Yo Yo dieting is not good for your heart. It isn’t good at all.

Since trying everything. I noticed when I turned 50, that I started to see a lot online about keto. So I decided to try it out. I stopped eating all processed foods. And I cut out all of my grains and other starches like root veggies. I even eliminated all fruits from my diet. I learned about 10 foods to avoid when trying to lose weight and get healthy. I eliminated sugar, bad oils and fats, processed foods and starches.

I also started adding lots of healthy foods to my diet that included meats, fish, eggs, natural fats like lard and butter, cheese and veggies that grow above the ground.

Over a 9-month period I lost over 60 pounds. My husband, Brian (boyfriend at the time) did the same and he also improved his health. He was on lots of medications for various health issues. Now he is medication free which saves lots of money. He feels like he got his life back. But I’m the lucky one because I get to have him in my life longer.

So the weight loss was very life changing for us.

Following an extremely low carb diet worked for me to finally lose the weight and keep it off long term.

The reason Keto was different for me, was because I felt like I was control. All the cravings for sweets went away and I don’t crave sweets anymore. This made it really different than some of the fad diets I tried in the past where I felt deprived. I felt like I got my life back.

If you are over 50 and wondering Does keto work for women over 50, let me assure you that it does. But you have to take the first step to get started. You have to get to that place where you are ready to make a change and you just got to make the commitment to do it. You can do it!


If you need some help getting started or some accountability, don’t be afraid to seek help.  I am taking on new clients and would love to answer any questions you may have about health and nutrition. You can set up a free consultation here to learn more about what I do and how I can help you lose the weight and keep it off long term.

Help My Husband Lose Weight

This morning I had someone contact me through Facebook wanting to set up a free consultation and hire me as a health coach. She said, “I need to help my husband lose weight.” She was very worried about him because he is a type 2 diabetic and clinically obese. He is only 38 years old. She is worried that he will be cutting his life short.

She explained that they discussed him losing weight and she put him on a low carb diet. By doing all the shopping and controlling the meals, she is trying to limit his carbs. He agreed to follow her “diet” but, she found out that he has been “cheating” and snacking at work and late at night. This frustrates her because she works so hard and takes time to plan out their meals. He doesn’t seem to care as much as she does. His constant binge eating is cause arguments between the two of them. She has had enough!

I explained to her that the consultation is all about determining if the person is ready to make a lifestyle change. If they are not, then I will not work with them as it would be a waste of time for both them and me. I suggested that she stop trying to control him, but for her to focus on herself. She can talk to him about her concerns, but unless he is ready to put his health first, she can’t help him.

Helping a spouse lose weight doesn’t work unless they are asking for the help. It is just like living with someone who has any other addiction. Unless they want help, you have to respect the fact that they are a grown adult and in charge of their own bodies.

It is frustrating when we love someone who is struggling with an addiction to food. It is especially worrisome when we see them suffering with numerous health issues and on lots of medications. We want to force them to do a “diet” or join a gym because we love them and want them to live a long life. But this will only cause arguments and stress in the household.

And you would think that if they really loved you they would stop eating the crap foods. But you got to understand that the SAD (standard American diet) is very addictive. It is very difficult to break the addiction to sugar which is in pretty much everything. But also, it is a total lifestyle change. This is why once someone decides to get healthy a health coach can be helpful. A coach can help people with their relationship with food and help them gain control so it is easier to make the switch to a healthy lifestyle.

The thing is, weight loss isn’t simple. And it isn’t just about eating differently. It is about fixing or reprogramming what is going on in the persons head. There is so much to change that it takes time. And often it takes a person years to own up to the fact that they have a problem. But they have to be ready.


In the mean time, you (the spouse) can control yourself and set a good example for your kids. For example, you can continue to buy healthy low carb foods only and cook low carb meals. You can focus on loving yourself. Let him do his own thing. But let him know you love him unconditionally.

What you don’t want to do is be an enabler. If he wants unhealthy food, then he will have to go buy it for himself. Be an supporter, not a nag. Let him know you love him and you will support him when he is ready.

You will get through this!

Can you relate to this? Do you struggle with food addiction? Where you in denial? Or perhaps you were on the other side wanting to help your spouse lose weight. Please share your story. Someone needs to hear your story.

I hope you found this post helpful. I wish you all the best!

Stop Sabotaging Weight Loss Now

stop self sabotaging weight loss

Do you have well-meaning family members or friends who say they are there for you, yet they seem to continue to sabotage your weight loss efforts? You know what I mean. They buy things that you don’t want to eat and they leave it right out in the open where you are tempted even though they are fully aware you are dieting.

Or they may encourage you to eat things that you are clearly trying to avoid. And whether you are able to resist the temptation or not, you wonder, “Why would my loved one sabotage my weight loss efforts?”. It can be very frustrating.

Why do family and friends sabotage?

I think there are a couple reasons why our loved ones and friends sabotage our weight loss efforts.

First, I think that perhaps they don’t fully understand how serious you are about changing your lifestyle. Perhaps they have seen you not stick with diets in the past. Or maybe they have seen you lose weight only to gain it back. So it is understandable it may be difficult for them to take you seriously. This can be very frustrated, especially if you are 100% committed to losing weight this time. All you can do is just keep your commitment to yourself and be patient with your family.

Trust that they will see your commitment and turn into an encourager rather than a saboteur. You may want to consider sitting down and having a serious conversation with your loved one. Let them know how important it is to you that they support you with your weight loss efforts. But if you can’t win their support, you need to keep pushing yourself. Don’t let their lack of encouragement give you an excuse to quit.

Show them you mean business by not only losing the weight but by keeping it off. People often expect weight loss to be temporary as many people yo-yo. I know even now, 4 years later, people make comments like, “Wow! I can’t believe you are still thin”.

Another reason why people might sabotage your weight loss efforts is simply that they don’t think. For example, last Christmas my son got me a huge box of imported milk chocolates. He knows I am not eating sugar and he loves seeing me healthy. He really just wanted to surprise me. But, obviously I didn’t want chocolates in my house as a temptation and I didn’t want to hurt his feelings either. So what I did was quietly gave the chocolates to my sister in law who was having a New Years Eve Party. She put them on a platter and they were a huge hit.

My point is that my son would never intentionally try to sabotage my efforts. He simply wanted to give me something that he thought I would love. And the old me would have loved the chocolates.

Another reason to sabotage weight loss is that misery loves company. Unhealthy people enjoy having company when they eat out and make unhealthy choices. When you decide to change, they feel threatened and may even worry they will lose you. They may worry that the one thing that was important between you was food. Now that you are eating differently than them, they may worry that the relationship will be different.

If you have a saboteur in your life, please try to be patient and understand they are responding out of their own fear. All you can do is reassure them that you are still you. You are just turning into a smaller physical person.

Why do we self-sabotage our own weight loss?

I think the biggest reason we self-sabotage is that it takes a while to get used to eating a different way. Actually, I just read that a group of students at the University College London did some research and now believe that it takes the average person 66 days to create a habit rather than the 21 one days that many think. You can read the article below.

How Long Does it take for something to become a habit?

The point is, if you are 50 years old and switching to a healthy low carb lifestyle, it will take a while to get used to the changes. And those changes are not only related to the food you eat but also the relationship with food. If you have been thinking one way, it will take a while to change your thoughts.

Another reason we self-sabotage weight loss is that we are fearful of success. Change is always scary even if it is a positive change. When we are overweight it is easy to hide our feelings and emotions within. Being in a new body can be very scary. If you lose weight and get healthy, your entire outlook on life may change. It is scary but worth it.

The other thing to keep in mind is that you may be self-sabotaging your diet and not even be aware of it. I know, it sounds crazy but it’s true. For example, let’s say you are trying to change how you eat, yet you end up binging on ice cream at bedtime. Then you ask yourself, “Why did I do that?”. It is frustrating.

But realizing that your crazy mind will play tricks on you will help you can take steps to change your thinking.

Recommended Reading on Self-Sabotage

Food Crazy Mind: 5 Simple Steps to Stop Mindless Eating and Start a Healthier, Happier Relationship with Food