It happens to the best of us. We are invited to someone’s home and they surprise you with something that is full of sugar that you prefer not to eat because you have been doing so well on your low carb way of eating. It sounds very easy to simply say no, but you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. If you are thinking: “Help Me to Say No to Cake and other Sweets” than I am glad you are here.
So how do you say no to cake and other sweets?
Just imagine, you make it through the entire meal and then …
here it comes…
double chocolate cake, which happens to be your old favorite.
So, what do you do?
Say no to dessert? Have a Cheat day?
It isn’t that simple.
Planning ahead is the best way to prevent the issue from coming up in the first place. What I do is give my host a heads up before I come over. I explain that I am living a low carb lifestyle and that I don’t eat processed foods and carbs anymore. I share my story so they understand that it is a personal lifestyle choice. I’m careful that they don’t think I’m putting down their way of eating.
Reassuring them that they don’t need to make anything special for me helps. I let them know I can eat any meat they prepare as well as any green vegitables. This seems to be the easiest thing to do. And it makes it much less stressful for the host.
Keep in mind, most people find low carb way of eating very confusing even though to us, it is quite simple.
I learned this the hard way, because once my step mother was all stressed out when we were coming over for dinner. She had made all sorts of fancy foods and got herself all worked up. I felt aweful that she was worried about having the right kinds of foods.
So now when we go to someones house, I just keep my way of eating on the down low and just eat the veggies and meat. This way, no ones feelings get hurt.
I always bring a side dish. This way I know there is something healthy to eat. If it is a picnic sort of meal, I may bring develed eggs or low carb cole slaw. If it is a sit down meal, I may offer to bring roasted brussle sprouts or something.
Don’t hurt feelings when saying no to cake
Now sometimes people will get their feelings hurt because they really don’t understand. They think that one little piece of something wouldn’t hurt you. I have people tell me that they feel sad for me never eating sugar.
But I educate them on what ketosis is and explain how I keep my insulin very low and just a small amount of sugar will make me feel like crap. It isn’t worth it to me to feel awful.
It’s okay to put yourself first!
It is important to remember to make your health a priority and to put yourself first. Most of us ended up fat and sick because we were people pleasers. Making others happy all the time is a bad habit that needs to be broken if you want to be able to change your lifestyle for good. You got to love yourself more than you love being polite. Don’t trade your health in order to shield someone’s feelings.
Say No to Obesity
Would you smoke a cigarette if it was offered to you? Would you worry about hurting someone’s feelings if you said no? For many of us, sugar is our drug. It’s our addiction.
So for me, when I’m saying no cake and other sweets, it’s like saying no to obesity!
Which brings us back to the double chocolate cake that scares us so much.
If the cake still comes to the table, simply say no thank you, I’m too full.
If you discussed your way of eating with the host, this is unlikely to happen. But if you are at a wedding reception or a place where you hav no control, just decline. You can do it!
And if you decide to eat the cake, then you forgive yourself and get back on track as soon as you can. No one is perfect. I’m not perfect and I bet you’re not either.