Excuses and Weight Loss

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This morning I was responding to a comment on my about page and was inspired to write this post about excuses and weightloss. Often we use excuses when not losing weight or simply to avoid doing the work to lose the weight.

The comment was “I will try it soon”.

This struck a cord with me because for years I procrastinated on losing weight. Actually even though I was in a size 16 I was in denial of my weight.

But there were times when I got tired of my muffin top and would do a fad diet. I’d lose a pound here and there but I never kept it off. There was always an excuse on why I couldn’t do it. Or I would look for a reason to push my health off for another day. And I used all the excuses. Thank goodness, I pulled my head out of the sand and decided to make some changes.

Now as a health coach and weight loss counselor I get to hear other peoples excuses! And believe me there is a lot. You see, making a change is scary and uncomfortable. If you have been wanting to lose weight, but keep putting it off you are not alone.

When you use excuses, it simply means you haven’t been in enough pain yet to take action. Perhaps your don’t have inflammation or your not on medications. Perhaps you love what you see in the mirror. In other words, Your not ready to take action. And that is okay.

But take a minute to read through some of these weight loss excuses. Have you used these excuses? Or  heard a loved one use them?

10 Biggest Weight loss Excuses Ever

“I’m too busy to eat healthy meals”. Let me just say, it doesn’t take any longer to make a healthy meal than it does to eat unhealthy. For example, it only takes a few minutes cut up a hard boiled egg and put it on a salad.

I can’t give up my comfort foods”. Just so you know, food is not love. And you can learn how to stop using food to make your feel better. Food is meant to nourish our bodies not support us emotionally.

If you use this excuse, you need to understand that this is a problem in your head, not your stomach. And yes, you can give up comfort foods that are unhealthy. Some comfort foods are good for you, but you can learn to eat them when you are actually hungry and not just when you want to feel better emotionally.

“My spouse doesn’t support me”. This is something that I hear a lot. And it is difficult when you have a partner who doesn’t think you need to lose weight or perhaps he/she is overweight as well. Or maybe they have their own fears. The thing to remember is that this is about you taking care of you. It’s about you loving yourself enough to make a change.

Sometimes the opposite is true for people. Sometimes a spouse may encourage or push you to lose weight because they are concerned about you. But unless you are ready to make a change, this nagging will not help. You need to be ready to make a change.  You can’t do it for anyone but yourself. I highly recommend spouses to read: Help My Husband Lose Weight.

“I’d have to cook differently for my family”. I’m sorry but this is the dumbest excuse ever. So you don’t want your kids and spouse to eat healthy foods? But believe it or not, there are people who think they would rather feed their spouse and children junk food because it is quick. Changing the way we shop and eat sets an example for our family. And it might prevent them from illnesses and health issues down the road.

“Healthy food is more expensive”. This is not true! I’ve been eating healthy for over 4 years and my food bill has gone down. Eating packaged junk food is expensive. When you eat food that isn’t processed it is actually less expensive in the long run. And eating healthy foods could save you money down the road in prescriptions because you wont need them.

“I have no time to plan my meals”. If your health is important, you will find a few extra minutes to pack a lunch or plan out dinner. You are worth it!

“My problem is hormonal”. I get this one as I gained a lot of weight when I was going through menopause. But I also lost 60 pounds when I was going through menopause. There are all sorts of hormonal issues that cause weight gain for people but you can still lose weight.

I’m on medications that make me fat. You can still lose weight even if you are on steroids, antibiotics or antidepressants that cause weight gain. I’ve seen people lose a lot of weight but it may just slow things down a bit. And I’ve also seen people find that often they are able to even eliminate some medications after they lose weight and under doctors care.

I’ll start next week. There is no time like the present. And you know, you will use the same excuse next week as well. Why not make yourself a priority and give yourself a gift of health right now.

You are worth it!

I don’t know where to start. This last excuse is very valid. This is where a health Tudor and coach can help!

As a health Tudor, I can put together a step by step program that is unique to you. We are all different in the foods that we like. You will be eating foods that you love and you will begin to feel better overall as your body gets the nutrition it needs to thrive.

When I work with clients I make sure I focus on the why. Meaning I help people understand how their body uses food for energy and why sometimes it stores it as fat. It helps people to understand why the foods they were eating helped to make them overweight in the first place.

I also educate people on how, by eating differently, their body can become a fat burning machine. Once we understand the mechanics of hour our bodies work everything begins to make sense. Once you learn this secret you will be able to keep the weight off for a lifetime.

Another important part of eliminating all of the excuses is changing your relationship with food. It is important to eat when your are actually hungry. Eating is about nourishing our bodies. Food tastes wonderful and gives great pleasure but eating isn’t about making us feel better emotionally.

Many over-eaters find that once they are able to reprogram their brain with the help of a weight loss counselor they can get control! You get to eat on your own terms without feeling deprived. Believe it or not, the cravings will go away. I have a t shirt that says “Food is not the boss of me”. But sadly for many years it was. Now, I am in control.

So hopefully you now get it that excuses and weightloss don’t go together. Excuses hold you back! It’s as simple as that.

You got this!

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Steps To Overcome Emotional Eating

The first step to overcome emotional eating is to acknowledge that you have a problem with food.

For me, I knew I had a problem with food, but when it came to changing my behavior, I focused on diet and what I was eating. But the process of losing weight and getting healthy, forced me to really look at my relationship with food and I realized I had a problem.

There are different types of emotional eating and everyone does it. For example: When someone dies and we visit the loved ones, we often feel the need to bring some sort of meal or food as we pay our respects. For some reason we think giving them food will make them feel better.

You see we use food to make us feel better when we are sad. We use food to celebrate things as well. That’s why you can always find cake and alcohol at weddings. And this is something that everyone does. We all use food emotionally.

This is how we have been programmed since we were kids. I remember being a small child and realizing that when I got a boo boo, my Mommy would give me a cookie so I would stop crying. So I learned that food fixed the boo boo. Later as an adult, I found that I reached for food when I felt adult emotions.

But for some us, it isn’t just about using food to feel better, Some of us are emotional eaters and often feel out of control.

How do you know if you are an emotional eater? Think about the last time you had something to eat that you later regretted eating. What emotional state were you in? Where you stressed, sad or depressed. Without realizing it. emotional eaters use food to feel better on the inside.

I remember when I was working as a retail manager, I worked very long shifts on my feet. I was often to busy to take a lunch break and my job in general was very stressful. Some days I was stressed out to the max. I remember the moment I had a problem with stress eating. It was when I was food shopping and I saw that Hershey Kisses were on sale. As I reached for them, the thought “I deserve this!” was in my head. I purchased them and later asked myself why. Because of course I don’t deserve to eat all this sugar if I’m trying to get healthy and lose weight.

I realized that I was looking to make myself feel better, just like my mom did when I had a boo boo as a child.

We are all different and we all use food in different ways to help us feel better.

But how do you overcome emotional eating while you are working on getting healthy and eating better?

The Second Step is to Love Yourself more than you Love Food!

This is when we really get honest with ourselves and realize what we are doing. Think about the action of eating food emotionally and looking to “feel better”. Do you actually feel better after you eat the bowl of ice cream or an entire pizza? Most often we feel awful and wish we didn’t have it at all. We wish we had more control over food.

This is when we need to accept that food isn’t going to make us feel better at all. Yes it may for a moment, but not for long. We can say no to crap food when we focus on loving our self enough that we want to be healthy and live longer and not be on medications.

When people are stressed or sad or lonely, they don’t reach for celery and carrots to eat. No, they more than likely reach for unhealthy foods packed with carbs and sugar.

For me, sugar was my drug. This is Soooo addictive. It just makes you crave more and more And then you feel like crap. This is very frustrating. But once you realize that these foods do you no good you can begin to get a little of control. You can love yourself more than you love the sugar.

The Third Step Eat a Low Carb Diet

When you eliminate sugar and carbs from your diet, the cravings will go away and you will feel much better. When there isn’t the spike in insulin, caused by high carb foods, you will feel like you are more in control and your cravings will go away. A Keto or low carb diet is perfect for emotional eaters!

The Fourth Step is to Avoid Triggers

Stress!

Avoiding stress can be difficult as it can come in many forms. It can be an unavoidable crisis or a daily stressful day. But stress can trigger eating to feel better.

If you are triggered by stress caused by work or a spouse or a sick relative, it will be difficult to avoid. But you can really take time to look at the situation and see if there is a way to eliminate some stress. For example, just taking time away from the situation can help. When I was stressed with my job, I decided that my health was more important that being stressed by things I couldn’t control. But I started to make changes with the things that I could control. I started to say NO to people! I started putting myself first. I no longer skipped my lunch like I did in the past and started spending my lunch break meditating and listening to music. It helped me to be more calm and make better choices. What can you do to make your life less stressful?

Social Pressure!

Every time you turn around there is another holiday and always unhealthy food. When out with family and friends you are encouraged to eat and drink all the bad stuff. You will need to figure out what works for you.

Habits/Boredom

Sometimes we eat just to eat or because it is what we have always done. When I was my heaviest, I would have a bowl of ice cream nightly while watching TV. I didn’t eat it because I was hungry. I ate it simply because it was a habit. And it was a difficult habit to break. But once I realized what I was doing, I was able to make a change. You can too. This is about figuring out what works for you. Now, instead of watching TV, I read in bed (where I don’t eat).

Hire a Health Coach who Specializes in helping with Emotional Eating

Let’s face it, losing weight and getting healthy isn’t easy. This is freaking hard. I know because I did it. But I was lucky enough to have a partner as Brian and I did it together. He had me and I had him. We all need that person to remind us we are loved and doing great. And we need that person to point out when we are using excuses or going back to the old way of thinking. I always felt lucky and blessed to not feel alone in my weight loss journey.

Helping others lose weight has become my passion over that last few years, because I don’t want anyone to ever feel alone or defeated in their journey to get healthy. This is why I have been working as a weight loss counselor for the last 2 years and now am privately offering private health coaching.

A health coach can help with educating you on how your body works so you can get healthy. They can help with a meal plan and offer support. But a counselor can provide one on one counseling which will help you with your relationship with food and emotional eating. He or she can help give you the tools and support you need to long term health and success.

If you have been struggling with emotional eating, you are not alone! I hope you found this post helpful. Please share your story below, I’d love to connect with you.

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Food Crazy Mind The Book

Food Crazy Mind: 5 Simple Steps to Stop Mindless Eating and Start a Healthier, Happier Relationship with Food

I love “Food Crazy Mind”. Davina Chessid writes about the most challenging part weight loss and that is a mindset. We are our own worst enemy or should I say our minds are.

Are you a mindless eater? Do you binge eat? Do you eat when you are not even hungry? If you are, you are not alone.
I was a grazer. If a food was there, I would eat it, even if I wasn’t hungry. So if you are a mindless eater, Food Crazy Mind is a book for you.

The Author, Davina Chessid shares her personal experience in a humorous was as she walks her readers through the “5 simple steps to stop mindless eating and start a healthier, happier relationship with food”.

You will love Davina’s writing style. She makes you feel like you are just hanging out with a friend. She writes about her personal experience so you find yourself relating to what she says because you are the same way. And I love this because no one wants to feel like they are the only one struggling with obsessing over food.

STEP 1 Exploring Resistance

This is when we want to make changes, but we end up sabotaging our efforts because the root problem is that we are afraid of change. This step is all about going deep and figuring out why you keep putting off making the changes that are needed. If you can’t figure out why you can’t make a change.

I have to warn you, exploring resistance can be difficult. It is about honesty and truth. Sometimes we believe our own lies and we hide behind our fears. Perhaps we use our fat bodies as a sort of a body armor to protect ourselves. But the bottom line is. We have to figure out why we resist change.

STEP 2 Introducing Mindfulness

Mindfulness is simply observing yourself. It isn’t about making changing tor doing anything different. It is about simply being aware of when you eat, why you eat, how you eat. It’s about being aware of the emotions you are feeling at that moment.

I love this section because you get to sort of play pretend. She suggests that you think back to a time when food was an issue. And put yourself back in that situation but pretend you’re are at your ideal size. In your mind walk yourself through how you might feel and act when you are your future healthier self.


STEP 3 Looking at Feelings

This section is about the reality that most of us who have struggled to lose weight often don’t eat because we are hungry. We eat for other reasons. Looking back I realize I actually eat my feelings. I was an emotional eater. And I will always be. But being aware of it gave me control over food.

It’s about taking time to think before you eat. It’s about just taking a few minutes to ask what you are feeling before you eat.


STEP 4 The Power of Habit

Change can be difficult, but once you make changes for the better and repeat it enough that it becomes a habit, it sort of becomes automatic. You almost don’t even need to think about it anymore.

However, changing a bad habit can be difficult as you have been doing it for a while. But in this section, the author gives many ideas and suggestions to help anyone get control and change their habits and over time, their relationship with food.

STEP 5 The Significance of Self Image

This is all about learning to love yourself for who you are. The development of self Esteem while losing weight is really tough.

I know because I spent many months working on pulling back all the layers and realizing that I am perfect just the way I am. I wrote an entire post about the development of self Esteem while losing weight. It is tough but so empowering. It is the final step to releasing the hold that food has on you.

This final step is about changing your thinking and introducing positive self-talk and changing your self-image.

I recommend this book to anyone who struggles with control. It will help you understand why you do the “crazy” things you do when it comes to food. The most important thing is to understand you are never alone.