Excuses and Weight Loss

Asking for help takes courage!

This morning I was responding to a comment on my about page and was inspired to write this post today. The comment was “I will try it soon”.

This struck a cord with me because for years I procrastinated on losing weight. Actually even though I was in a size 16 I was in denial of my weight.

But there were times when I got tired of my muffin top and would do a fad diet. I’d lose a pound here and there but I never kept it off. There was always an excuse on why I couldn’t do it. Or I would look for a reason to push my health off for another day. And I used all the excuses. Thank goodness, I pulled my head out of the sand and decided to make some changes.

Now as a health coach and weight loss counselor I get to hear other peoples excuses! And believe me there is a lot. You see, making a change is scary and uncomfortable. If you have been wanting to lose weight, but keep putting it off you are not alone.

When you use excuses, it simply means you haven’t been in enough pain yet to take action. Perhaps your don’t have inflammation or your not on medications. Perhaps you love what you see in the mirror. In other words, Your not ready to take action. And that is okay.

But take a minute to read through some of these weight loss excuses. Have you used these excuses? Or  heard a loved one use them?

10 Biggest Weight loss Excuses Ever

“I’m too busy to eat healthy meals”. Let me just say, it doesn’t take any longer to make a healthy meal than it does to eat unhealthy. For example, it only takes a few minutes cut up a hard boiled egg and put it on a salad.

I can’t give up my comfort foods”. Just so you know, food is not love. And you can learn how to stop using food to make your feel better. Food is meant to nourish our bodies not support us emotionally.

If you use this excuse, you need to understand that this is a problem in your head, not your stomach. And yes, you can give up comfort foods that are unhealthy. Some comfort foods are good for you, but you can learn to eat them when you are actually hungry and not just when you want to feel better emotionally.

“My spouse doesn’t support me”. This is something that I hear a lot. And it is difficult when you have a partner who doesn’t think you need to lose weight or perhaps he/she is overweight as well. Or maybe they have their own fears. The thing to remember is that this is about you taking care of you. It’s about you loving yourself enough to make a change.

Sometimes the opposite is true for people. Sometimes a spouse may encourage or push you to lose weight because they are concerned about you. But unless you are ready to make a change, this nagging will not help. You need to be ready to make a change.  You can’t do it for anyone but yourself. I highly recommend spouses to read: Help My Husband Lose Weight.

“I’d have to cook differently for my family”. I’m sorry but this is the dumbest excuse ever. So you don’t want your kids and spouse to eat healthy foods? But believe it or not, there are people who think they would rather feed their spouse and children junk food because it is quick. Changing the way we shop and eat sets an example for our family. And it might prevent them from illnesses and health issues down the road.

“Healthy food is more expensive”. This is not true! I’ve been eating healthy for over 4 years and my food bill has gone down. Eating packaged junk food is expensive. When you eat food that isn’t processed it is actually less expensive in the long run. And eating healthy foods could save you money down the road in prescriptions because you wont need them.

“I have no time to plan my meals”. If your health is important, you will find a few extra minutes to pack a lunch or plan out dinner. You are worth it!

“My problem is hormonal”. I get this one as I gained a lot of weight when I was going through menopause. But I also lost 60 pounds when I was going through menopause. There are all sorts of hormonal issues that cause weight gain for people but you can still lose weight.

I’m on medications that make me fat. You can still lose weight even if you are on steroids, antibiotics or antidepressants that cause weight gain. I’ve seen people lose a lot of weight but it may just slow things down a bit. And I’ve also seen people find that often they are able to even eliminate some medications after they lose weight and under doctors care.

I’ll start next week. There is no time like the present. And you know, you will use the same excuse next week as well. Why not make yourself a priority and give yourself a gift of health right now.

You are worth it!

I don’t know where to start. This last excuse is very valid. This is where a health Tudor and coach can help!

As a health Tudor, I can put together a step by step program that is unique to you. We are all different in the foods that we like. You will be eating foods that you love and you will begin to feel better overall as your body gets the nutrition it needs to thrive.

When I work with clients I make sure I focus on the why. Meaning I help people understand how their body uses food for energy and why sometimes it stores it as fat. It helps people to understand why the foods they were eating helped to make them overweight in the first place.

I also educate people on how, by eating differently, their body can become a fat burning machine. Once we understand the mechanics of hour our bodies work everything begins to make sense. Once you learn this secret you will be able to keep the weight off for a lifetime.

Another important part of eliminating all of the excuses is changing your relationship with food. It is important to eat when your are actually hungry. Eating is about nourishing our bodies. Food tastes wonderful and gives great pleasure but eating isn’t about making us feel better emotionally.

Many over-eaters find that once they are able to reprogram their brain with the help of a weight loss counselor they can get control! You get to eat on your own terms without feeling deprived. Believe it or not, the cravings will go away. I have a t shirt that says “Food is not the boss of me”. But sadly for many years it was. Now, I am in control.

So if you think you are ready to put the excuses aside and finally gain control, I’m here for you.

You are worth it!

Contact Wendy for a free consultation today.

Stop Sabotaging Weight Loss Now

stop self sabotaging weight loss

Do you have well-meaning family members or friends who say they are there for you, yet they seem to continue to sabotage your weight loss efforts? You know what I mean. They buy things that you don’t want to eat and they leave it right out in the open where you are tempted even though they are fully aware you are dieting.

Or they may encourage you to eat things that you are clearly trying to avoid. And whether you are able to resist the temptation or not, you wonder, “Why would my loved one sabotage my weight loss efforts?”. It can be very frustrating.

Why do family and friends sabotage?

I think there are a couple reasons why our loved ones and friends sabotage our weight loss efforts.

First, I think that perhaps they don’t fully understand how serious you are about changing your lifestyle. Perhaps they have seen you not stick with diets in the past. Or maybe they have seen you lose weight only to gain it back. So it is understandable it may be difficult for them to take you seriously. This can be very frustrated, especially if you are 100% committed to losing weight this time. All you can do is just keep your commitment to yourself and be patient with your family.

Trust that they will see your commitment and turn into an encourager rather than a saboteur. You may want to consider sitting down and having a serious conversation with your loved one. Let them know how important it is to you that they support you with your weight loss efforts. But if you can’t win their support, you need to keep pushing yourself. Don’t let their lack of encouragement give you an excuse to quit.

Show them you mean business by not only losing the weight but by keeping it off. People often expect weight loss to be temporary as many people yo-yo. I know even now, 4 years later, people make comments like, “Wow! I can’t believe you are still thin”.

Another reason why people might sabotage your weight loss efforts is simply that they don’t think. For example, last Christmas my son got me a huge box of imported milk chocolates. He knows I am not eating sugar and he loves seeing me healthy. He really just wanted to surprise me. But, obviously I didn’t want chocolates in my house as a temptation and I didn’t want to hurt his feelings either. So what I did was quietly gave the chocolates to my sister in law who was having a New Years Eve Party. She put them on a platter and they were a huge hit.

My point is that my son would never intentionally try to sabotage my efforts. He simply wanted to give me something that he thought I would love. And the old me would have loved the chocolates.

Another reason to sabotage weight loss is that misery loves company. Unhealthy people enjoy having company when they eat out and make unhealthy choices. When you decide to change, they feel threatened and may even worry they will lose you. They may worry that the one thing that was important between you was food. Now that you are eating differently than them, they may worry that the relationship will be different.

If you have a saboteur in your life, please try to be patient and understand they are responding out of their own fear. All you can do is reassure them that you are still you. You are just turning into a smaller physical person.

Why do we self-sabotage our own weight loss?

I think the biggest reason we self-sabotage is that it takes a while to get used to eating a different way. Actually, I just read that a group of students at the University College London did some research and now believe that it takes the average person 66 days to create a habit rather than the 21 one days that many think. You can read the article below.

How Long Does it take for something to become a habit?

The point is, if you are 50 years old and switching to a healthy low carb lifestyle, it will take a while to get used to the changes. And those changes are not only related to the food you eat but also the relationship with food. If you have been thinking one way, it will take a while to change your thoughts.

Another reason we self-sabotage weight loss is that we are fearful of success. Change is always scary even if it is a positive change. When we are overweight it is easy to hide our feelings and emotions within. Being in a new body can be very scary. If you lose weight and get healthy, your entire outlook on life may change. It is scary but worth it.

The other thing to keep in mind is that you may be self-sabotaging your diet and not even be aware of it. I know, it sounds crazy but it’s true. For example, let’s say you are trying to change how you eat, yet you end up binging on ice cream at bedtime. Then you ask yourself, “Why did I do that?”. It is frustrating.

But realizing that your crazy mind will play tricks on you will help you can take steps to change your thinking.

Recommended Reading on Self-Sabotage

Food Crazy Mind: 5 Simple Steps to Stop Mindless Eating and Start a Healthier, Happier Relationship with Food